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Subject: Re: I'm the new girl...
From: NeithTbg
Posted: Mon Apr 23. 2001, 03:32 UTC
Followup to: "I'm the new girl..."  by Xkisses  (Sun Apr 22. 2001, 16:01 UTC)
  I had a similar experience once, emphasis an once. I took a seasonal job at 
a really busy bar in FL. Everyone (all girls) had worked there from 8 - 18 
years. It was as if they were territorial, really wierd. They told me they 
were glad to have me because most seasonal help wasn't very good yet they 
still acted exactly like the people you described. Snide comments, bitchy 
remarks, questioned me as if I had no experience ( I had 18 yrs.) Anyway, it 
did get better after about 4 months, right before the season was over. One 
girl I actually just had to call her on her nasty remarks both to my face, but 
mostly, behind my back. Yuch... just thinking about it gets to me, every where 
else I've worked we always got along really well. The money was very good so I 
put up with it, I learned to let it roll off my back. I think they were just 
insecure mostly, of course, it's hard not to think they were just plain mean 
women. 
  There is always a period of adjustment, people checking you out. Sometimes 
it is as if they want to see how far they can push you but it usually 
subsides. Which in your case I hope it does soon. Hopefully you'll be so busy 
there won't be time for that kind of B.S. Give it some time but stand up for 
your self too. Be professional and do your job well, they can't have anything 
on you.
Good Luck!!


Opinion questions...
> 
> Okay gang, I started a new job last week at a busy 
> techno/dance/strictly-over-21 club, and I have a couple questions.  
> I've had a lot of bartending experience, but even on my first Friday 
> night, of course I'm going to be a bit loopy with the register and 
> finding out where things are.  The bar is massive - it has 4 
> stations: 4 sets of liquor, 4 registers, 4 wash sinks, etc.  My only 
> problem is - the other tenders definitely look down on me.  All two 
> of them.  I can understand a bit of animosity toward the new girl, 
> but being downright mean isn't really called for, I don't think.  the 
> girl I worked with repeatedly made snide comments, ignored my 
> questions, and threw a fit when I misrang something on the register.  
> Trust me, I know how to do my job, I usually work well with others (I 
> keep out of their way if they stay out of mine...you know how 
> important that is when there's three of you behind a bar), I'm 
> honest, and usually quite friendly.  I really like this job, but I 
> don't want to be the outcast anymore, and i can't figure out why I am 
> in the first place.  Does this usually go on at most places?  I've 
> never encountered such animosity toward the new girl in my life!  
> Maybe I've just been lucky.  But, do you guys have any tips on how to 
> keep loving the club and having a great time without feeling like the 
> gunk on the bottom of speedrail?  
> 
> ANother one:  A guest asked me for a "Vox Cosmopolitan, Martini No 
> Vermouth".  I assumed that he meant a vox cosmo, AND a Martini no 
> vermouth.  as it turned out, he just wanted a cosmo made with vox.  
> And I got yelled at for wasting alcohol when i should have realized 
> what he meant.  Was I wrong?  For the life of me, I thought I 
> understood him correctly...
> 
> Coping as the new girl...
> Xkiss
> -- 
>   
>   ~*~ "Earthquakes save you the trouble of stirring your drink." ~*~


-- 
     ~Neith~
"I value my craziness and the creative places it can take me. It frees me from 
the constants of pedestrian reason and unimaginative predictability."


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