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Subject: Re: Sexual Harrasment?
From: Chris Milligan
Posted: Fri Jan 23. 2009, 15:05 UTC
Followup to: "Sexual Harrasment?"  by Raven K  (Fri Jan 23. 2009, 11:51 UTC)
> Hi webtenders! (first time post here!)
> 
> ok so here's the thing,  I am a young female that recently crossed 
> over from the retail and sales industry to bartending.  For the most 
> part, it has been a smooth transplant and everything is going great!  
> However, I have noticed that men in this business tend to be very 
> aggressive towards women and very sexual.  I talked to some of the 
> other girls at work about it, but most seem oblivious to it.  The 
> girls that do notice basically told me "thats just the way men are, 
> get over it" ..  
> 
> For instance, here's an example of what happened today:  two male 
> servers were talking at the service bar while waiting for their 
> drinks.. and all they kept talking about is which girl at which table 
> they want to "bang" .. Then I politely look up and say "you guys 
> realize I am standing right here??" .. and I'm quickly replied with, 
> "so?? I'd bang you too!"  men.. ughh! 
> 
> In all honesty it doesn't bother me much; it's always done in a 
> joking manner.  It's just I have never worked a job where the men 
> were so blunt about their sexuality.  I'm not upset by it, just a 
> little shell shocked.
> 
> Is this type of behavior commonplace in the industry or do I just 
> work with a bunch of perverted men?  Also, how do you (as a woman) 
> feel about it..?  My roomate, who is also a bartender, says females 
> get "desensitized" pretty fast in this industry!
> 
> -Raven

WELCONE TO ZTHE WEBTENDER!!!!

Yes, you will find more inuendos, comments, and come ons in a restaurant/bar 
than you will most anywhere else not only from coworkers but from guests as 
well.  

Some of us (guys nad girls) use this to thier advantage with guests, flirting 
= tips. But you have to decide about your cowrkers.  I do think (as the law 
does )that there is a line that is not to be crossed.  

-- 
Chris
www.santafebarman.wordpress.com

I would like to make a toast to lying, stealing, cheating and drinking. 
If you're going to lie, lie for a friend. 
If you're going to steal, steal a heart.
If your going to cheat, cheat death.
 And if you're going to drink, drink with me.”
-Anon


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