> Hi webtenders! (first time post here!)
>
> ok so here's the thing, I am a young female that recently crossed
> over from the retail and sales industry to bartending. For the most
> part, it has been a smooth transplant and everything is going great!
> However, I have noticed that men in this business tend to be very
> aggressive towards women and very sexual. I talked to some of the
> other girls at work about it, but most seem oblivious to it. The
> girls that do notice basically told me "thats just the way men are,
> get over it" ..
>
> For instance, here's an example of what happened today: two male
> servers were talking at the service bar while waiting for their
> drinks.. and all they kept talking about is which girl at which table
> they want to "bang" .. Then I politely look up and say "you guys
> realize I am standing right here??" .. and I'm quickly replied with,
> "so?? I'd bang you too!" men.. ughh!
>
> In all honesty it doesn't bother me much; it's always done in a
> joking manner. It's just I have never worked a job where the men
> were so blunt about their sexuality. I'm not upset by it, just a
> little shell shocked.
>
> Is this type of behavior commonplace in the industry or do I just
> work with a bunch of perverted men? Also, how do you (as a woman)
> feel about it..? My roomate, who is also a bartender, says females
> get "desensitized" pretty fast in this industry!
>
> -Raven
WELCONE TO ZTHE WEBTENDER!!!!
Yes, you will find more inuendos, comments, and come ons in a restaurant/bar
than you will most anywhere else not only from coworkers but from guests as
well.
Some of us (guys nad girls) use this to thier advantage with guests, flirting
= tips. But you have to decide about your cowrkers. I do think (as the law
does )that there is a line that is not to be crossed.
--
Chris
www.santafebarman.wordpress.com
I would like to make a toast to lying, stealing, cheating and drinking.
If you're going to lie, lie for a friend.
If you're going to steal, steal a heart.
If your going to cheat, cheat death.
And if you're going to drink, drink with me.”
-Anon